core: rework how we flush incoming traffic when a socket unit goes down

Previously, we'd simply close and reopen the socket file descriptors. This is
problematic however, as we won't transition through the SOCKET_CHOWN state
then, and thus the file ownership won't be correct for the sockets.

Rework the flushing logic, and actually read any queued data from the sockets
for flushing, and accept any queued messages and disconnect them.

src/basic/socket-util.h

@@ -135,5 +135,7 @@ int receive_one_fd(int transport_fd, int flags);
 
 ssize_t next_datagram_size_fd(int fd);
 
+int flush_accept(int fd);
+
 #define CMSG_FOREACH(cmsg, mh)                                          \
         for ((cmsg) = CMSG_FIRSTHDR(mh); (cmsg); (cmsg) = CMSG_NXTHDR((mh), (cmsg)))