varlink: make 'userdata' pointer inheritance from varlink server to connection optional

@keszybz's right on
https://github.com/systemd/systemd/pull/18248#issuecomment-760798473:
swapping out the userdata pointer of a live varlink connection is iffy.

Let's fix this by making the userdata inheritance from VarlinkServer
object to the Varlink connection object optional: we want it for most
cases, but not all, i.e. all those cases where the calls implemented as
varlink methods are stateless and can be answered synchronously. For the
other cases (i.e. where we want per-connection objects that wrap the
asynchronous operation as it goes on) let's not do such inheritance but
initialize the userdata pointer only once we have it. THis means the
original manager object must be manually retrieved from the
VarlinkServer object, which in turn needs to be requested from the
Varlink connection object.

The userdata inheritance is now controlled by the
VARLINK_INHERIT_USERDATA flag passed at VarlinkServer construction.

Alternative-to: #18248

src/shared/varlink.c

@@ -2137,7 +2137,9 @@ int varlink_server_add_connection(VarlinkServer *server, int fd, Varlink **ret)
                 return r;
 
         v->fd = fd;
-        v->userdata = server->userdata;
+        if (server->flags & VARLINK_SERVER_INHERIT_USERDATA)
+                v->userdata = server->userdata;
+
         if (ucred_acquired) {
                 v->ucred = ucred;
                 v->ucred_acquired = true;

src/shared/varlink.h

@@ -41,11 +41,12 @@ typedef enum VarlinkMethodFlags {
 } VarlinkMethodFlags;
 
 typedef enum VarlinkServerFlags {
-        VARLINK_SERVER_ROOT_ONLY   = 1 << 0, /* Only accessible by root */
-        VARLINK_SERVER_MYSELF_ONLY = 1 << 1, /* Only accessible by our own UID */
-        VARLINK_SERVER_ACCOUNT_UID = 1 << 2, /* Do per user accounting */
+        VARLINK_SERVER_ROOT_ONLY        = 1 << 0, /* Only accessible by root */
+        VARLINK_SERVER_MYSELF_ONLY      = 1 << 1, /* Only accessible by our own UID */
+        VARLINK_SERVER_ACCOUNT_UID      = 1 << 2, /* Do per user accounting */
+        VARLINK_SERVER_INHERIT_USERDATA = 1 << 3, /* Initialize Varlink connection userdata from VarlinkServer userdata */
 
-        _VARLINK_SERVER_FLAGS_ALL = (1 << 3) - 1,
+        _VARLINK_SERVER_FLAGS_ALL = (1 << 4) - 1,
 } VarlinkServerFlags;
 
 typedef int (*VarlinkMethod)(Varlink *link, JsonVariant *parameters, VarlinkMethodFlags flags, void *userdata);